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I wish you well, and I hope the infinity happiness, joy an peace will always be with you all the time.

Eventhough Christmas comes only once a year, but please know that I cherish you every single day no matter the distance between us.

This year I might celebrate Christmas without you, but my emotions to you will remain the same. However I still believe that we still could make it happen.

Honey, whenever you call I’ll be there because you’ll always be my baby, and I will tell Santa Claus, “All I want for Christmas is YOU!”

Merry christmas my SO,

With love,

t

Give something, ask in return(?)

I am a person who like to give a presents and don’t mind to spend on it. But, not everyone like to receive a present — like my SO. So last week I bought a Christmas hampers and gave it to him, eventhough he loved it, he told me that it was unnecessary and asked me not to waste my money on it. He also told me that better save my money on our next vacation (someday).

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In my point of view, I gave him a present because I might not be able to celebrate Christmas with him and we might be busy with our own family; I gave the hampers as remembrance of me on Christmas. But in my SO’s point of view, he feels like he is obligated to give me something in return when I give him a gift or presents. So, instead of doing that thing, he asked me not to give him any presents anymore. Well, I agreed him, because I do not want to make things more complicated.

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I can understand that he is concern about the money, which should be better used for some airplane tickets or hotel room, or some sweet escape vacation. In the other hand, I remembered about the 5 Love Language (receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch). I am sure that receiving gifts is not my SO’s #1, but it’s not my #1 either.

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What I have learned about this experience was I couldn’t force my SO to receive my presents, because it’s not what he’s concerning about. It’s better to have some compromisation than unnecessary fight, and spend some money on what he’s put interest on.

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t